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Spring Cleaning – New Perceptions

Spring is here. We can feel the shift in the air even though some days are still too cold. This is the time when many of us actively rid ourselves of what is not serving any longer. Some do so by an internal cleanse to clear body’s elimination channels, others by a physical cleaning of their homes and surroundings. All in order to create more space for something new to come.

This act of elimination is truly a productive action, but what if there are things that would benefit us more if we made an adjustment to the way we perceive them rather than getting rid of them?

Let’s take our fears for example. How many of us would love to get rid of any fear that paralyzes them? Fears that eventually forcing us to make important decisions while in an impaired state of mind, ending up with an outcome that we never wished for? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if there was a way to clear these fears out, allowing you to make a new start without any hesitations? Of course it would! But would it be the most beneficial act for you?

What if changing your perception about your fears – viewing them as mirrors to your situation or as guides implying that a change is needed – would bring a more meaningful aspect into your life? What if turning your fears into your allies would carry more value than clearing them out?

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Evolutionally, fear had an important roll – to warn you of a certain danger which requires the need to save yourself from. Back in the days when these dangers were actual threats to life (a bear, a fire…), you would be open to take the advice and make adjustments in order to survive. Evolving into modern life while daily tasks becoming significantly less dangerous, one would expect that the level of fear would subside.

In reality, even though your life mostly is not threatened, your fears never subsided. With that, because your life mostly is not threatened, your willingness to take the advice to make adjustments dissolved in the air.

It doesn’t make much sense, does it?

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Succumbing to your fears comes from a deep ingrained thought that bad things will happen if you do not follow the popular/accepted solution. This solution might be great for some but not necessarily for you, and maybe without succumbing to your fears, you might be able to make a decision from a more neutral perspective. Yet, would you be able to trust that an original decision will be beneficial even when it is different than the popular thought?

Before you detach yourself from your fears to enable this trust, we need to establish a basic understanding that your fears have the power to affect you only when you are living in a survival mode. With that said, you might not always be aware that you are in this mode, simply because everyone around you operates the same – a behavior that has been rooted in our society as a normal state. Let me assure you that even though many of us live like that, it is not beneficial to any of us at all! Therefore, if you want to liberate yourself from this survival state you will need to create an environment where your body meets all its survival needs. I wrote long about it in my article The Art of Healing Yourself, with many suggestions.

In short, when this environment is created, your body will shift from a survival mode into a deep relaxed state where your perception completely transforms. It is important to understand that the situation you are dealing with will never change, and you will be facing the same challenges as before, whether your nervous system is relaxed or not. But the way you perceive the situation will be different, allowing you to take a fresh look and productive actions to resolve it.

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Whenever you are ready so create this environment, you can start with these three simple steps (feel free to add as many more as you need!!!):

First and foremost, stop in our tracks and take a deep breath!!! A shallow breath is not supportive to a relaxed state. A deep breath will convince your brain that “war is over” since there is time now to breath.

There are so many breathing techniques, which you can find all over the internet, and choose what works for you. I personally like the diaphragmatic breathing technique, in which you take long inhales and exhales while activating your diaphragm. I also advise everyone to put notes on mirrors, in cars, in kitchens, with the word “Breathe” so they can take one deep diaphragmatic breath whenever they see a note. It would be awesome if you can take few minutes to take few breaths but always remember that one is more than zero! No need to stress if you can fit only one breath in! Begin with what you can and embrace it!

Wim Hof’s method is also one of my favorites. He has an 11-minute video with his technique which is very meditative and calming.

You can also take a breathing class or a yoga class or singing class or scream your lungs out in the woods. Whatever makes you breathe!!! It doesn’t matter what you do – just breathe!!

Nourishing your body will reduce its survival stress worrying for the next meal. When you routinely nourish your body with foods that it can use, your body will learn to trust that this need is fulfilled, and no stress is required for that any longer.

My go-to for nourishment is chicken soup / bone broth or root vegetables soup if you prefer a vegetarian version. This soup should be consumed daily, even few times a day.

Establishing a routine of slowing down your activities as you get closer to bed time will help prepare your body for a deeper rest. A repetitive routine will help your body to trust that you are serious in your intentions to relax and that regardless to what happened through the day – you will provide your nervous system an anchor to reset later in the evening. Here are few suggestions. Please do not limit yourself to these only:

  • Drinking a comforting tea in the evening such as Lemon balm, calendula, oat straw, chamomile, a combination of these or any other herb that you like and calms your nervous system down.
  • Epsom salts baths to relax your muscles.
  • Self-reflexology especially on your nervous system reflexes.
  • Reading real books to allow your imagination and creativity to thrive.
  • Set your cell phone to rest and recharge in a different room or floor if possible.
  • Castor oil packs to reset your nervous system.

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First mission of every spring cleaning is to shine and polish who we are. When you create the environment for your body to deeply relax, you will be able to make the most effective use of the communication your body provides. And while understanding that the situation you are dealing with will never change, you will be able to manifest a new way to perceive your situation, allowing you to take a fresh look and productive actions to resolve it.

Would that be fast and easy? of course not! But you have the whole spring to work on it:)

And guess what – when spring is over, summer will always be moving in!!!!!!

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What If Our Own Words Were Not Empty?

How often are we frustrated as we realize words that we have been told came without any foundation behind them? How often are we promised something, only to discover that it has been just a maybe? How often do we offer empty words ourselves?

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Empty words come from a place where a commitment is not being honored. Historically, honoring commitments have been highly valued but somehow through the years it lost its prestige and became the first thing to compromise about. As appealing as it may sound to drop a commitment and be free to do everything we want, my own experience led me to believe that this compromise will take a toll on our emotional and mental states which in turn may evolve into a physical health issue.

What if this toll is too heavy for us to carry? Would there be a way for us to stay committed and follow our own values in a world that does not respect any? Since my personal view is that we should never let anyone’s behavior change our owns, I would like to share here my way to honor commitments and values in a world that would not do so.

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First, we have to survey the strength of our internal commitments to our own selves before we can learn how to stand by our commitments to others, offering credible words and not just empty ones.

Then, we have to bring to our awareness that a promise we make to ourselves is as equally important as a promise we make to another person. Many times, we tend to regard ourselves as invisible, and then, EVERYTHING becomes more important than our word to ourselves: If we are tired and decide to rest but a friend calls to ask for a favor, we will be rushing to fulfil it as we are still on the phone; or if we made up our minds to stop eating junk food but are invited out for a pizza or ice cream then we quickly drop our intention.

For me, when I do not stand by my own word, I interpret this as being dishonest with myself. Living in a constant habit of being dishonest with myself makes it is impossible for me to change my habits towards others – offering sincere words when I have no idea what this really means.

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Dishonesty, whether it comes from a survival need, or has been demonstrated by our surroundings as the only way to behave, creates a conflict within our internal environment which carries a great toll on our bodies. This toll often tends to manifest in a physical way – a rash, an ache, some weight gain, some digestive issues, some auto immune issues or many other deeper issues.

We might not be aware that we are being dishonest to ourselves, especially if this is the way we have been conducting our lives throughout our years. Thus, we might not even know that we are creating an internal conflict. The best test to reveal our honesty is to take a moment to observe our commitment to our own words – simple observation without judgement. If we discover signs of dishonesty to our own selves, maybe it is the time to do something different than we did before. Repeating the same actions will always bring the same results, so why not surprise our brain with a new way of thinking? Keeping these surprises small is the key for their success. Some simple examples are listed below. The examples are endless!! Please do not limit yourself to these only, just use them as a starting point:

  • Nourishment – committing to eating one nourishing dish every day, regardless to what we eat throughout the day (my go-to would be chicken soup/bone broth).
  • Sleep – committing to going to sleep five minutes earlier than we usually do every day.
  • Movement – committing to parking our car one parking spot further than we usually do when we are out.
  • Energy work – committing to saying one kind thing about us every morning
    (my go-to would be: “I am awesome!!”).
  • Bodywork – committing to laying our hands on our feet for one minute every day. A simple hold! The heat of our hands will draw the blood to our feet and will operate the reflexes.
  • New experiences – committing to making one cup of herbal tea in the morning or in the evening (my go-to would be Calendula – calendula officinalis).
  • Breathe – committing to taking one deep breath every day (can put notes in the car or on the mirror as reminders).
  • Exploring our range of emotions – committing to listening to our body before we make a commitment in order to understand how we feel about that commitment. If we whole heartedly want to engage in a certain activity, then a commitment is definitely in order. But if we don’t really want to do it and feel guilted into it, then it is time to explore our range of emotions and allow our heart to make the decision if to commit.

Can a Castor oil pack on our abdomen assist in this process? No doubt about it!
A castor pack on the abdomen will be a spectacular pathway to our brain, as it has the ability to shift our nervous system into the parasympathetic state, which is the deepest relaxed state of our body. And once we are experiencing the parasympathetic state – our perception of everything we encounter becomes more sincere.

Of course, a castor oil pack is a commitment as well…. 😉

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The secret to learn how to commit to ourselves is by making small meaningful and intentional commitments which we won’t need to break. Nothing extravagant! Nothing to show! Just opening a communication line within us in order to build a trust in our own selves. This will make us visible. Once we are visible, we will not be able to ignore our genuine promises to self and slowly begin honoring them.

When a heartfelt commitment comes from a deep intention to follow through, it will not encounter any internal conflict and will never lead us into a thought of breaking that commitment. This will allow our physical issues to settle down and heal. As we heal, we will learn to establish the habit of honoring our own word to our own selves, simply because we love the way a healthy body feels. We will not be able to go back to dishonesty once we discover what it is doing to us. This will lead us to the understanding that our word, whether promised to self or to others, must come from an earnest desire to commit. And when a word comes from a deep honest intention to fulfil it, it will never be empty, no matter to whom it is addressed.

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Don’t Waste Your Money

“Don’t waste your money”, said the orthopedic surgeon, coming out of my son’s ACL & meniscus repair surgery, answering my question whether there are any contraindications for massaging his knee or leg. Humbled, I asked, “what if he does it himself?” and was dismissed with the statement that no one does it.

Realizing that he might not be aware of any benefits simply because he believes that nobody does it, I smiled and thanked him for everything he did and granted myself the permission to follow my beliefs.

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In 2017, I completed 800 hours of massage classes in order to obtain my license to touch. In the advanced medical massage class, we had to present 2 projects, showing progress with the volunteers’ condition following the massage treatment.

A friend, who suffered of numerous medical issues, many of whom are contraindicated for massage, but in deep need of healing, volunteered to one of these projects. We mutually agreed to follow all the rules, as otherwise it would be a life-threatening situation.

With much fear and anxiety, as it was my first time working with someone experiencing a life-threatening condition, I allowed myself to touch, understanding that while there are some conditions that massage is contraindicated, Touch never is!!!!

Human touch is unreplaceable. Human touch cannot be substituted with any medication or procedure or imaging or a vitamin IV. Human touch is a crucial component in our healing. Human touch does not have to come from an external source – it can be applied to your own tissue by your own self.
Regardless to the popular modern codes that it is unacceptable to touch anyone and definitely our own selves.

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Needless to say, the progress of my friend was beyond every expectation, as many issues improved without even addressing them!!

Fast forward to my son’s knee story, I applied my understanding of human touch to his knee every day from the moment we arrived home, until he headed back to his own house 2 months later.

At his first post operation follow up visit, two weeks from surgery, he was the only one among the many patients waiting in the large waiting room (young and old), who was able to quickly hop towards the PA calling his name. She was surprised to see how fast and pain free he moved (no narcotic meds involved along the process!) and asked him what he was doing.

Happy to share all our work at home, I offered to tell her if she’s willing to listen. She politely smiled and left the room.

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My son’s progress has been phenomenal. Touch was an imperial component, along with nourishment, physical therapy, and allowing himself the time that was needed for healing, even when we discovered post operation that longer healing time is required due to the severe nature of his injury.

The orthopedic surgeon was very pleased with the recovery, but never once asked what is done at home for it. Indeed, many credits are due to his skills for conducting this complicated surgery meticulously. With that, many of us might not be aware that a lot should be done afterwards at home to progress the healing. The written post operation care instructions cover very important care to eliminate complications, but do not extend to a whole healing experience. There is so much more that can be done to help your body heal.

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Yes, “don’t waste your money” is a great advice! Yet, it is our responsibility to decide what brings us value and what is just a waste. Even when an opinion comes from a respected source, we still have the right to take it as an opinion only.

Our thoughts, knowledge and understanding of our own body are as important as anyone’s thoughts and knowledge. If you struggle with allowing your thoughts to count, try a castor pack!! You will be astounded to discover how relaxing your nervous system and getting yourself out of the “war zone” into a peaceful mode can shift your perception of yourself and/or your situation.
I am always here to listen and to teach everyone who wishes to learn how to create the right environment for whole healing.

May we all have the courage to use as many resources as we need to allow our body to heal itself regardless to the thoughts and perceptions of others.

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Mica’s Magic Pot – My Mom’s Legendary Recipe of Our Family’s Chicken Soup

My mom owns a Magic Pot. She did not buy it magical at all but turned it that way with her enormous loving intention to nourish everyone around her. If you have been privileged to eat one of my mom’s meals, you know that this soup is just the appetizer of a 1000-course meal. No one leaves my parent’s house hungry! FOR WEEKS AFTER….

And no, my mom’s pot is not the one that may have popped into your mind reading the title of this blog, even though it might be the ultimate answer for your joints….

Mica’s Magic Pot

Beyond the fact that this is probably the best chicken soup you ever ate in your life, my mom can make the soup in this pot last 7 days – regardless to how many people eat it or how many servings they take per day! Just like the Chanukah’s miracle of the little pot of oil that lasted 8 days… Only here we have a nicely sized pot of pure Gold!

I wish I had my mom’s patience to prepare it the way she does, but I don’t. That’s why I will add my altogether-in-the-pot-just-add-water-and-boil version of my mom’s soup.
If you have the pot and the patience – by all means – follow her steps! It will turn out great!! Especially since you will not have the real legend to compare………….

This famous chicken soup has been prepared in my mom’s family for many generations. Living in Romania, the soup survived through wars, famine, communism and many other unimaginable inhumane actions. As kids, in Romania and later in Israel, we ate it every day without having any idea how beneficial it is. Starting my own family, I kept the tradition, again clueless – automatically doing what intuitively felt that I need to do to care for my family.

It took me almost 40 years to appreciate the gift my mom gave me! And for over 10 years now, I have been preaching it in my practice (could there be a better companion to the Castor oil Packs than a chicken soup???). I went through many versions of the soup until I finally reached the one we all love. Truth is that it doesn’t matter how you make it, as long as it contains real ingredients and not artificial flavored powders. Herbs are awesome in any shape. Powdered artificial flavors are not!

There are so many reasons to eat this soup daily! Beginning with its fats which nourish your nervous system – calming down the fight-or-flight response. Continuing with its gelatin which calms digestive disorders, and its collagen which protects your joints (again, the ones that hold you, not the ones you hold), ligaments, skin, and its minerals and its nourishing properties for basically everything you could ever imagine!!

We also cannot ignore our Jewish connection, as Sally Fallon best describes in her book, Nourishing Traditions:

The 12th century physician Moses Maimonides prescribed chicken broth as a treatment for colds and asthma. Modern research has confirmed that broth helps prevent and mitigate infectious diseases. The wise food provider, who uses gelatin-rich broth on a daily or frequent basis, provides continuous protection from many health problems.

Nourishing Traditions by Sally Fallon

Whoa! If it was me – I would eat and feed everyone around me every day!!! Oh, wait. I already do it!!! All thanks to my mom’s teachings with her own actions.

You can choose to start your own tradition, or you can choose not to. The choice is yours. I can only give you the tools by diving straight to the secret of preparing this magic gold, as revealed by my mom, Marcela (Mica) Haimberg. Picture credits to my mom as well!!

Ingredients:
1 Chicken – cut (preferably organic, free range)
1 bulb of Garlic – peeled
15-20 Carrots – whole. If organic -no need to peel.
1 onion – whole, peeled
1 bell pepper – cut and deseeded
1 celery root (peeled and sliced) + stalks & leaves (if available)
1-2 parsley roots – peeled and cleaned
2-3 celery stalks
1-2 bunches of parsley
1-2 bunches of dill
Salt, pepper to taste
Water to top the pot

Setting everything in the pot in the following order:

Cutting the chicken and placing the pieces at the bottom of the pot
Add garlic
Add carrots
Add onion and bell pepper
Add sliced celery root
Add celery stalks and greens
Top with parsley and dill

Now that everything is in the pot:
Add salt & pepper, top with water (my mom adds boiling water) and bring to a boil. Spoon any spume that accumulates at the top, lower the heat and simmer for 4 hours.
strain and enjoy!

Chicken soup is ready.
Strain and enjoy!!


My version is much less structured:
I use a bigger pot -16 qt, as I cannot replicate my mom’s 7-day magic in a smaller one.
In order to accommodate this change, I use 2 whole chickens (not cut!!). Many times, I will use one chicken and add feet or knuckle bones (grass-fed beef) or chicken backs & throats.

Also, many times I do not have the vegetables at home when I need to make the soup, so I start it with the meats only and add the veggies the next day, spooning any accumulated spume.
I put all the ingredients above in the pot, add some cayenne, salt and pepper (sometimes also nettle, chaga, turmeric root, burdock root) and simmer for 2-3 days – turning the heat off when I sleep or am out of the house and on again when I am back.
This version creates more of a bone broth, rather than a traditional chicken soup.


Last but never least – these are my lovely parents – a rare species of hard-working caring people, who can make everything possible without anyone noticing the long and exhausting labor behind the scenes – Mica and Solo Haimberg:

My parents love to travel the whole world, but at the moment they arrive home, you can be sure that my mom’s pot is already bobbling with magic!!!

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The Wild-Card Theory

We are all too familiar with seeing our friends and/or family members and/or ourselves becoming ill or suffering from a certain condition that every statistics you find about it are extremely gloomy, leaving everyone in a deep despair with no real hope to elevate yours or your loved ones’ spirits. Could there be a way to make things different? Could there be a way to bypass these dreadful statistics?

What if there was something that can be done? What if this something has no way to predict its results? What if this something was just a surreal idea such as The Wild-Card Theory?

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According to Merrian-Webster dictionary, the definition of a wild card is an unknown or unpredictable factor. Britannica explains it as a person or a thing that could affect a situation in a way that cannot be foreseen. Dictionary.com offers that it is a card having its value decided by the wishes of the players.

Let’s see where all these definitions can take us:

The Wild-Card Theory is based on my assumption about the population who participates in the statistical studies (This is my own personal view and I do apologize ahead to anyone whom this may cause any discomfort). My assumption is that the majority of this population have lived a certain lifestyle and reached a certain outcome which requires now a medical care. As these people seek medical attention, they try their best to maintain their old lifestyle as much as possible within minimal changes, except of some adjustments to accommodate treatments, interventions and medications before or after work and through weekends or vacations. This way is convenient as it provides the comfort of something familiar and does not require any mental or physical or emotional efforts. Just requires following accepted rules and instructions, which eventually lead to a predicted promised outcome, registered as statistics.

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But what if you want to do one thing that is different from what you have done before? You might find yourself becoming unpredictable as you deviate out of the predicted statistics. You might become a Wild-Card which can turn in any direction. This situation might not be so comfortable, as there are more unknown factors to it than known ones, and the fact, that any situation might not be worse than the gloomy prediction, is not too comforting as there is no way to scientifically prove it. This situation might also not be supported by those around you, as it is not familiar to anyone and might be perceived as unsafe. There are so many opportunities for discouragement, making this deviation pretty unwelcoming.

Also, Wild-Cards cannot be registered in any statistics since there are too many variants to consider. There is no such thing as “one change fits all”. Each person comes from a different background and has their own unique way of thinking. There are not enough similar features to compare, making this another opportunity for discouragement, as you will probably be on your own, without a solid scientific support.

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But what if just for a moment, you allow yourself to imagine? What if just for a moment you allow yourself to imagine choosing to do one thing that you really want to do even though everyone around has convinced you that it is nonsense? What if just for a moment you allow yourself to imagine choosing to eat one different thing that you really like even though everyone around has convinced you that it will be too weird to eat it? What if just for a moment you allow yourself to imagine choosing to express one feeling that resonates with you even though everyone around has convinced you that it is better to suppress your feelings?

What if just for a moment you allow yourself to imagine choosing to spend your time only with the people who have the mental-emotional-physical capacity to walk by your side and unconditionally hold your hand through every decision you make?

What if you take another moment and you allow your imagination to go wild – imagining yourself daring to do two of these things. or three. or more… Would you dare to imagine that???

It might become truly astounding!!!!!!

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Yes, Wild-Cards might be able to create miracles. But these miracles are not granted for free. These miracles are brought to life by a meticulous and persistent work. These miracles are brought to life by taking the time to do something different. These miracles are brought to life by taking the time to understand the reason for doing the things you do, and the way they serve you. These miracles are brought to life by taking the time to learn about different approaches in every area of life. And mainly, these miracles are brought to life by allowing yourself to listen to your own body and tend to its needs.

Some people might wonder if it’s too late to make a change. Every change requires an energy investment. While being physically & emotionally & mentally burdened, it might be more challenging to find the energy to make a change, as opposed to the ease of keeping your old habits. What if this is too late and the change will not really make a difference? Why even bother?
I find it hard to believe that a difference won’t be created. Every minor shift has an effect. While you might be hoping for a grand transformation, the shift might be manifested in one little thing only: the way you perceive or react to events. Shouldn’t that be enough? As you slowly start shifting how you view and approach any event that crosses your way, you may find that bigger changes begin to manifest, such as, your priorities might change, leading to different decisions or actions.

When would it be too late? My personal thinking is that as long as you are the one crying for your own problems, it is not too late to make any changes. However, when others cry for your problems and start calling you “the late” without even knowing what you are late for, then you might probably be too late…

So, if you are still reading my article up to this point, you are definitely not late;)

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But why would you even bother to become a Wild-Card? Truth to be said, if you like what your statistics predict then you should follow the recommended regiment and be happy with it. If you don’t like the prediction – check within yourself how tirelessly and persistently are you willing to work in order to deviate from it. Once you are ready to do everything in your power in order to make a change, you are welcome to follow my thoughts how to get you started. Then, feel free to make any adjustments following your body’s needs (and you can find more elaboration in my article The Art of Healing Yourself).

First and foremost, your nervous system must relax. There is no way to get out of your automatic mode while your body is wired for survival. Once nervous system is relaxed, the allocation of your body’s energy “budget” will be different – there will be time and resources to detect and correct what’s needed. The best way I can offer would be castor oil packs. Of course, there are millions of other ways to do it, but the combination of touch and stillness brings astonishing results (along with many other benefits, for example, softening your diaphragm to allow more room for your lungs to expand, bringing more oxygen into your body).

Once your nervous system is relaxed, it might be the time to observe your nourishment. Nourishment means supplying your cells with the materials they need in order to function in their most efficient way. How can you nourish your body? By eating real food. Food that was not processed or changed by human hand. Food that existed here for thousands of years and is not new. Food that your grandparents will recognize when you take them shopping – ask them which foods they ate as kids and learn from them. These foods probably have been protecting them from what they are eating now. Real food is not about being vegetarian, or vegan, or paleo, or follow a certain diet. It is about eating a product that your cells recognize and can utilize, and not replacing it with something containing harmful ingredients. Some examples (but not limited to) of real food could be Fruits (preferably organic), vegetables (preferably organic), grass-fed / organic meats, Free range chicken /eggs / chicken soup/bone broth/roots soup, avocado, full fat grass-fed dairy / butter….

Now that your nervous system is relaxed and your body is nourished, it is time to nourish your soul by opening your heart and mind to find and follow your deepest desires. Is there anything you wish to learn, or to see, or to do? Is there anywhere you wish to be? You might find that you are limiting yourself due to material necessities – money, time, physical location. While these are real obstacles on your way to make your wishes come true, they should not stop you from dreaming. Because the only thing that can make your deepest wishes come true is finding the courage to dream or visualize them. And dreaming can take place only when your survival needs are met, meaning you are not in “war zone” anymore. If you’d like, you can read more about it in my article What Does it Take to Follow Our Dreams?

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The Wild-Card Theory is not a quick magic solution to conditions which have been building in your body for many years. It is a process that requires your physical-mental-emotional commitment and is meant to bring awareness to a very basic rule: if you want to achieve different outcomes, you must do something different than what you did before. As simple of a statement this would be, it does require a strong will-power to carry it out. Finding your will-power depends on your intentions only:

Do you want to deviate from the statistics?
Are you willing to invest your time and energies to do something different?
Are you comm
itted to reordering your whole world – emotionally, physically and mentally?

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Becoming a Wild-Card would probably be one of the most challenging actions you would ever take in your life:

  • Dealing with uncertainty in a world that is already shaken.
  • Adjusting to changes that are not always comfortable or comforting.
  • Learning new habits which might not always be welcomed by your surroundings.
  • Accepting emotional expressions as part of your life, as embarrassing as they might be.
  • Supporting yourself by doing what feels right for you regardless to the responses of others.
  • Allowing yourself to dream and to hope while not allowing any perceived imperfections to limit your imagination.
  • Accepting the Feeling of loneliness until you find the courage to surround yourself only with the people who have the emotional-mental-physical capacity to walk by your side.
  • Discovering how the forgotten self-love and kindness-to-self allow you to prioritize what really matters, even when no-one around you can demonstrate it.

And the list goes on and on, completed by those who were and are Wild-Cards.

Is it worth it? It’s only for you to decide! You are the only one who is responsible for your actions and for the consequences of your actions. Every decision you make should be one that you whole heartedly can live by.

At any time, if you need my help, you know where to find me. My sessions and workshops are designed to fit each person’s individual situation, working to encourage minor (almost invisible) changes in one’s life, which have been showing an amazing long-lasting healing effect with many.

The highest forms of love are inevitably totally free choices and not acts of conformity.

M. Scott Peck, MD – The Road Less Traveled
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