Spring is here. We can feel the shift in the air even though some days are still too cold. This is the time when many of us actively rid ourselves of what is not serving any longer. Some do so by an internal cleanse to clear body’s elimination channels, others by a physical cleaning of their homes and surroundings. All in order to create more space for something new to come.
This act of elimination is truly a productive action, but what if there are things that would benefit us more if we made an adjustment to the way we perceive them rather than getting rid of them?
Let’s take our fears for example. How many of us would love to get rid of any fear that paralyzes them? Fears that eventually forcing us to make important decisions while in an impaired state of mind, ending up with an outcome that we never wished for? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if there was a way to clear these fears out, allowing you to make a new start without any hesitations? Of course it would! But would it be the most beneficial act for you?
What if changing your perception about your fears – viewing them as mirrors to your situation or as guides implying that a change is needed – would bring a more meaningful aspect into your life? What if turning your fears into your allies would carry more value than clearing them out?
Evolutionally, fear had an important roll – to warn you of a certain danger which requires the need to save yourself from. Back in the days when these dangers were actual threats to life (a bear, a fire…), you would be open to take the advice and make adjustments in order to survive. Evolving into modern life while daily tasks becoming significantly less dangerous, one would expect that the level of fear would subside.
In reality, even though your life mostly is not threatened, your fears never subsided. With that, because your life mostly is not threatened, your willingness to take the advice to make adjustments dissolved in the air.
It doesn’t make much sense, does it?
Succumbing to your fears comes from a deep ingrained thought that bad things will happen if you do not follow the popular/accepted solution. This solution might be great for some but not necessarily for you, and maybe without succumbing to your fears, you might be able to make a decision from a more neutral perspective. Yet, would you be able to trust that an original decision will be beneficial even when it is different than the popular thought?
Before you detach yourself from your fears to enable this trust, we need to establish a basic understanding that your fears have the power to affect you only when you are living in a survival mode. With that said, you might not always be aware that you are in this mode, simply because everyone around you operates the same – a behavior that has been rooted in our society as a normal state. Let me assure you that even though many of us live like that, it is not beneficial to any of us at all! Therefore, if you want to liberate yourself from this survival state you will need to create an environment where your body meets all its survival needs. I wrote long about it in my article The Art of Healing Yourself, with many suggestions.
In short, when this environment is created, your body will shift from a survival mode into a deep relaxed state where your perception completely transforms. It is important to understand that the situation you are dealing with will never change, and you will be facing the same challenges as before, whether your nervous system is relaxed or not. But the way you perceive the situation will be different, allowing you to take a fresh look and productive actions to resolve it.
Whenever you are ready so create this environment, you can start with these three simple steps (feel free to add as many more as you need!!!):
Breathe
First and foremost, stop in our tracks and take a deep breath!!! A shallow breath is not supportive to a relaxed state. A deep breath will convince your brain that “war is over” since there is time now to breath.
There are so many breathing techniques, which you can find all over the internet, and choose what works for you. I personally like the diaphragmatic breathing technique, in which you take long inhales and exhales while activating your diaphragm. I also advise everyone to put notes on mirrors, in cars, in kitchens, with the word “Breathe” so they can take one deep diaphragmatic breath whenever they see a note. It would be awesome if you can take few minutes to take few breaths but always remember that one is more than zero! No need to stress if you can fit only one breath in! Begin with what you can and embrace it!
Wim Hof’s method is also one of my favorites. He has an 11-minute video with his technique which is very meditative and calming.
You can also take a breathing class or a yoga class or singing class or scream your lungs out in the woods. Whatever makes you breathe!!! It doesn’t matter what you do – just breathe!!
Nourish
Nourishing your body will reduce its survival stress worrying for the next meal. When you routinely nourish your body with foods that it can use, your body will learn to trust that this need is fulfilled, and no stress is required for that any longer.
My go-to for nourishment is chicken soup / bone broth or root vegetables soup if you prefer a vegetarian version. This soup should be consumed daily, even few times a day.
Create a slowdown routine
Establishing a routine of slowing down your activities as you get closer to bed time will help prepare your body for a deeper rest. A repetitive routine will help your body to trust that you are serious in your intentions to relax and that regardless to what happened through the day – you will provide your nervous system an anchor to reset later in the evening. Here are few suggestions. Please do not limit yourself to these only:
- Drinking a comforting tea in the evening such as Lemon balm, calendula, oat straw, chamomile, a combination of these or any other herb that you like and calms your nervous system down.
- Epsom salts baths to relax your muscles.
- Self-reflexology especially on your nervous system reflexes.
- Reading real books to allow your imagination and creativity to thrive.
- Set your cell phone to rest and recharge in a different room or floor if possible.
- Castor oil packs to reset your nervous system.
First mission of every spring cleaning is to shine and polish who we are. When you create the environment for your body to deeply relax, you will be able to make the most effective use of the communication your body provides. And while understanding that the situation you are dealing with will never change, you will be able to manifest a new way to perceive your situation, allowing you to take a fresh look and productive actions to resolve it.
Would that be fast and easy? of course not! But you have the whole spring to work on it:)
And guess what – when spring is over, summer will always be moving in!!!!!!
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